Calmness: A Crucial Component in Building Resilience
Nathaniel Duncan 26 Oct 0

Strolling through the Universe of Calmness

Let's think about this for a moment - What's that one thing we frequently overlook when trying to develop resilience? Is it a stubborn determination? Maybe courage to weather the storm? But, if I were to bet my money on this, it'd be on calmness. Sounds surprising, doesn't it? Even just mildly entertaining for those of us who usually get caught up in the whirlwinds of life. But, it's true to the core and it’s been my personal experience.

As we embark on this journey to understanding the role of calmness in building resilience, let's begin by picturing calmness as an expansive, serene lake, and resilience as the ability of a perfectly balanced stone skipping across its surface. Far from the mundanity, the calm lake allows for the perfect balance, the perfect grip for the stone to keep bouncing farther and farther, resilient against sinking. It's all about staying afloat, isn't it?

Framing Calmness in the Canvas of Life

Calmness, dear reader, isn't simply about maintaining an external facade of tranquillity. It's much more profound than that. It's about harbouring an inner peace and learning to maintain it, regardless of circumstances. Taking a step back, that's what my grandmother used to say. She once remarked, “Nathaniel, my boy, always imagine you're painting the canvas of your life - would you choose to splatter wildly with colours of chaos or would you gently stroke with hues of peace?” Those wise words have stuck with me ever since.

The tentacles of calmness seep into every major life experience. Whether you're in a conflict situation or trying to meet a deadline at work, or merely arguing with Scarlett about the best course for a weekend dinner, maintaining a calm composure can undoubtedly benefit your resilience and churn out better outcomes. You see, when there's a calm certainty in your approach, you tend to make more informed decisions and, most importantly, react less impulsively.

Resilience: The Indomitable Spirit

Before we dive headlong into this section, a quick reminder - resilience isn't about never falling but about always getting back up. It's about staring adversity in the face and grinning back with determination. It's taking whatever life throws at you and saying, “Is that the best you got?”.

Resilience is the innate strength that lets us bounce back from life's challenges and adversities. It's akin to the boomerang that returns to the thrower no matter how hard or in what direction it's thrown. This magnificent human trait, however, requires a catalyst to truly shine – and we're back again at our secret ingredient - calmness.

Calmness and Resilience: The Inseparable Duo

How well do calmness and resilience play together, you ask? Picture this, life is a boxing match. You're in the ring, and so is your opponent - adversity. Resilience is your defensive technique – it lets you jump back on your feet every time you're knocked down. But calmness? Calmness is your footwork - the rhythm, the steadiness that allows you to stay in the fight without losing your cool or your brain strategy, despite repeated blows.

Imagine, dear reader, you're stuck in a tight situation. The walls are closing in, the heart is pounding - that's adversity mocking you. A calm person assesses the situation, formulates a plan, and proceeds with a balanced approach. There's your resilience, surfing on the waves of calmness.

Practical Guidelines to Integrate Calmness and Resilience

If you're hoping to suddenly wake up one morning radiating total calm and resilience, well, I won't sugarcoat it. It's a journey, a process, a conscious act of mastering your inner self every single day. However, every journey starts with a single step, so here are some practical tips to find your calm and build your resilience:

  • Slow down and take deep breaths. Whenever things get messy, take a moment, get comfortable with silence, and breathe. It sounds simple, but it's surprisingly effective.
  • Physical exercise can be a great stress reliever and resilience builder. Not only does Scarlett affirm this, but scientific studies also back this up.
  • Develop an attitude of gratitude. Accompanied by a good old laughter session, it instantly uplifts your mood and brings a sense of calm.
  • Lastly, maintaining a positive outlook, even in adversities, works wonders in building resilience.

Understand that resilience is a journey, not a destination. So, you never really "arrive"; you keep on keeping on. Therefore, equip yourself with the shield of calmness, dear reader. Allow it to guide you through chaos and channel your resilience. Remember, in the grand painting of life, choose the hues of calmness. Visualize, manifest, and make it happen. As the great Ian Maclaren said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle and sometimes, all we need is a bit of calm in our own storm.”